I have, yet again, neglected my duty to update my blog for an extended period of time. Sometimes I think my life is really just a soap opera (or drama of some sort). Shortly after my last post, my mother-in-law, very dramatically, left my father-in-law and got my husbad and sister-in-law caught up in the drama. Fortunately for me, my role was more of one of support for my husband and listening to my father-in-law’s endless speaches and awkward moments. Things regarding this have been very up and down since then, but have recently turned out in my father-in-law not wanting my mother-in-law back, uncovering some very serious lies (I’m still not sure what the purpose was in telling some of them), and discovering some very unpleasant things. For instance, my husband has been trying to get a hold of his mother for quite some time, but she won’t call him back or anything (even though she tells people that she does). We found out through his father, that my mother-in-law has said some very deragotory things about my husband, which devasted him. Even though he’s trying to be tough. It’s rather sad. I was hoping that my son would have at least one set of “normal” grandparents. Now he’ll probably ever only know his one grandfather.
That brings me to what has happened lately with my sister. As you already know, she’s been staying at my house for almost two months, but it seems like forever. She was having some eye problems late in September, so we took her to the ER after setting up an appointment for her to get health insurance (she’s eligible for child health plus, which is retroactive). At the time, I didn’t have custody, and, as we found out, neither did CPS. They called my parents for permission to treat her. They refused. We were talking to the CPS worker while all of this was going on, and she suggested that I go up to Family Court to file a Family Offence Petition to obtain temporary custody so that she could be treated. We did this, and let me tell you, it was very difficult, emotionally. You know how they say that often people in these situations don’t want to hurt the family members that have been hurting them because they are family and they love them? Well, let’s just say that I understand it in a whole new way. So, we got the temporary custody and the order of protection, went to go eat dinner (it was almost 5 p.m. by the time we left Cooperstown, and it takes almost 45 minutes to get back to Oneonta), and then went to the ER. She was seen and told that she had pink eye, which they gave her medication for. That day was one of the most difficult I’ve had in a while.
Since we had filed the Family Offense Petition, we had to go to court. Which we did and, currently, my parents are unwilling to negotiate. They are probably trying to get to us, but it’s extremely stupid because if we go to trial they will probably be put out even more and will have to travel 3 hours for every court date. Currently, I have a lawyer, my sister has a law gaurdian, my parents have a lawyer, and we have another date set-up for another conference because their lawyer thinks she can talk them into a deal. My lawyer also had me apply for full custody.
My son needs to go take his nap, but I’ll update more later.
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